Stacy and I have very different opinions about “The One”. This is mainly because she’s had “The One” and I never have. Not that I haven’t used the words, “I love you” or anything. It’s just that “The One” hasn’t ever smacked me in the face and ruined my life.
Question:
Do you know at least 5 couples in your family/friend/working environment that you would consider truly in love?
To this I’d have to say NO. A resounding no! Holy crap are you kidding me NO! IN FACT I don’t think I’ve met any couple ( still together ) that’s in love. The couples I’ve met who say they’re in love, don’t really act it out as much as they say it. At least not to my standards anyway. This isn’t to say I don’t know people who are married! I know plenty of people who are married. Love, not so much. I think people stay together for reasons much more important than love. They have kids, a home, a life together, whatever. There’s a mutual respect that lets each other be who they are but together with the other person. That doesn’t require love. Similar to a prison inmate sharing a cell with another. They might fight at first. One might make the other his bitch, but they work out thing in the long run.
This is the huge flaw that I see in “The One” theory. How many more people do you know out there that were married to “The One” until they found the real “The One”? Explain that Nancy Drew. Then, they’re willing to drop everything in their lives to be with that other person because they’re in love. This happens all the time!
Stacy explains “The One” feeling as butterflies, intimate moments, and memories that last forever! How dreamy! :-) It’ll be a break thru when we find the chemical reactions that place emotions over logic. I don’t see how “The One” differs so much from “The First” or “My Best”. People never forget their first love, nor do they forget their first time. These moments take on an exponential feeling if they involve the same person. But that’s not necessarily “The One”.
If you believe in the premise of “The One”, do they exist for everyone? If they do, then will they always meet? What happens if my one-in-a-million doesn’t swim in the pool of the million people I will meet in my lifetime? How sad is that! That would mean some people out there would just have to settle for “The Other One”, “The First One That Came Along”,”The One Who Knocked Me Up”, or “The One I Married In Vegas.”
I think it’s a lot easier for people to say “The One” got away than it is to find another one. I’m not picking on Stacy here at all. I live a life of dogs, movies, and late night TV. The prospect of “The One” scares the hell out of me. If I were to fall that hard for someone and it didn’t work out… I don’t know. I’m going to loose it when Icarus kicks the bucket. I can’t imagine finding the one for me and having them slip thru my fingers.
This is an honest question here, remember I’m emotionally retarded… Is the love of “The One” more powerful than the love of a parent or a sibling? It’s impossible to replace that person, but in time you do find happiness. The pain goes away slowly over time. The moments occupied by their memory become fewer and fewer. They’re never truly gone, but no longer keeping you in the past. Its my experience with loved ones like that, they want you to move on. To find others who fill your life by the void they left.
Summary: I think “The One” is whom you make it. It can change.
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